If you are a twin mom, welcome. If you are just curious, welcome. Here are the FAQs of twin moms. When you are a twin mom, you get asked a series of questions that I feel sometimes I wanted to hand out a flyer. But as I have grown in motherhood and as a mother of twins, I am learning though these are questions are repetitive to me are not to others. People are curious and feel blessed to be the mother of twins.
The FAQ of Moms of Multiples
-Are they yours?
My babies are bi-racial. When they were newborns, they were so light that I remember a stranger joking that I must have stolen those babies. I guess it is nice they are concerned whether they are mine or not right?
-Are they identical?
If they girl/girl or boy/boy I can understand this question. If they are boy & girl twins, then the answer is always no. Boy/Girl twins are fraternal, not identical.
-How do you tell them apart? (When twins are fraternal)
When they are fraternal it’s easy.
-Are you sure? (Follow up question, when twins are confirmed to be not identical)
It’s like asking, are you sure they are yours? You sure you gave birth to them?
-Are they natural?
I think with the high percentage of twins and reality shows such as Kate plus eight that people are curious to know if they are natural or by some kind of medical (or holistic) intervention. Honestly, does it matter?
-How do you do it?
Raise a child? Be more specific with that question. No, I really do not how to answer that question. And if anyone has the answer for this, please share!
-Do they get along well?
For me, I only have my twins and wonder how moms have 1+ kids get asked the same question. I would love to know.
Comments Twin Moms Don’t Like to Hear
Poor you!
I couldn’t do it.
I would kill myself if I had twins.
That’s too many.
They aren’t identical (after being told they were identical)
You have your hands full.
Critiques and comparisons of our twins appearance.
Honestly, I don’t think any mom wants to hear those kids when it comes to their kids.
So, if you a new mom of twins babies are adorable, double the babies, double the adorable, enter the questions. There are times we may get annoyed. We are human. Smile and know that you have been blessed to be a mother of twins. If you are reading this and you are not a twin mom, thanks for reading FAQs of twin moms and compliments are always welcomed!
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I like the comments twin Mom’s don’t want to hear.
Great answers, and with the list of what not to say – I’m so sorry anyone thinks any of those are okay. And you’re right, no mom no matter her circumstances wants to hear any of those.
I’ll remember those things not to say. When I was younger, I wished I had a twin.
So frustrating when you’re not in the mood to chat isn’t it! I was just writing about this last week too!
http://twinpickle.com/2016/09/02/questions-twin-moms-are-repeatedly-asked-and-the-quickest-possible-response/
I just smile with all the silly questions I get about my twin daughters… My favorite question is: “Did you plan to have twins?” No, I was happily surprised when I found out….
I remember when my now 34 year old twin boys were babies and people would stop to ask the same questions over and over … I loved answering those questions because I loved my twins so much and being a mom of twins ! They are my only children and I still to this day love answering questions when someone new finds out I’m a mom of twins .
That is too sweet! My twins are my only kids and completely get it. They grow up so fast and these moments are brief.