When I found out that I was having a girl, I was really excited. I felt I won the baby lottery by having a boy & girl and just one pregnancy. How perfect! I also knew of the things I would be faced with is building her up with great self-esteem in all ways including her biracial hair.
My journey growing up I was not in love with my hair. I had a geri curl and then a relaxer later in my childhood years. I was taught and believe that straight and long hair was the only type of beautiful hair until I went to college. But, I learned to embrace and love my natural hair. I wouldn’t think of going back. I want my daughter to have that same confidence.
How I Am Teaching My Daughter to
Love Her Biracial Hair
My daughter has a combination of curly patterns or hair types. Her patterns ranges from 3A – 4a. Yep, lots on different patterns on her beautiful head. I wrote about the biracial hair struggles in the beginning with her. Here are the ways I am teaching my daughter to love her biracial hair.
When it comes to hair, it seems that straight hair is still considered the perfect hair. To build self-esteem when it comes to her hair, I started reading books to her when she was younger about loving your hair. Her favorite book about hair is the Dove’s Love Your Curls which is free on Amazon with the Kindle app. Emi’s Curly Coily, Cotton Candy Hair and Big Hair, Don’t Care are great ones to that I read to her when she was younger.
This is so important. She has read and seen herself in the books she has read. Luckily, all the women in my immediate family are natural. I have dreadlocks, my sister has natural hair and other sister has cute low cut fade. So, there is immediate representation of women in her life that are embracing their natural hair. If I see a show where a young girl is natural curly like hers, I do point it out (especially on shows she loves) and movies. Like Black Panther was great for her to see.
We are now in the process of involving her in own hair management. Now, this has not been an easy process by any means for a girl who is strong willed. Having her choices on day she washes her hair. Teaching her maintenance of covering her hair and the hair products to put in her hair. I recently gave her the option to straighten her hair and she decided she wanted to do it. Four days after she straightened her hair, she asked for me to wash it because she had a presentation about curly hair and she wanted her hair to be curly. So, with all the struggles, this made me know that I am definitely on the right path of teaching her how to love her hair.