A new year brings a fresh start, and a chance to make the new year even better than the last. One area I like to focus on is goals for our marriage as the new year rings in. If you are looking for ways to grow closer this new year, I have some marriage goals you might consider making your resolution!
I find that sitting down together and talking about areas that you want to work on and grow stronger in is excellent. That way you both feel you are on the same page and willing to put in the work that is needed. Marriage is 50/50, and both partners have to put in 110%, and when you do that, your marriage goes to another level, and you grow together not apart.
7 Easy Goals For Your Marriage To Grow Stronger – Marriage Goals for the New Year
If you are a little slacking in date-nights, consider making it a goal to do a date night at least once every two weeks. Even if your date night means staying up once the kids are in bed, and having a movie night or board game date at home, do it. You don’t have to go all out for your dates, just as long as you make time for the two of you to connect, talk, and have no other interruptions in your conversations. Check out Groupon for deals and ideas out.
Make sure that you both share areas that you are grateful the other person does. Maybe he appreciates that you do his laundry, and you are blessed he mows the lawn. Instead of taking those chores for granted, thank the spouse. Compliments will help you to feel loved, appreciated, and noticed. Build each other up with compliments when you can, so the other knows the value you see in them. From work ethic to helping with kids, chores around the home, and so on.
Watch Tone Of Voice
Be aware of how you speak to each other. If one of you is having a hard day, try not to take it out on each other. Be aware of your tone of voice. Sometimes our sound might show we are irritated, and that can cause friction. Our spouse assumes we are upset, frustrated or annoyed and it can create distance. So, watch how you say things to each other, to not trigger a fight.
Step Away From Technology
Make time for each other at least 1 hour before bed or 1hr to 30 min in the morning . Technology can be a distraction that can interfere with intimacy and can just simply be distraction in general. Try putting your phones up and turn off the television and just spend time together. Maybe read a book together, talk about plans coming up, or how your day was. Just taking time to be present without our phones or television being a distraction. To step it up a notch, plan a technology free getaway.
Learn each other love language. So if you need words of affirmation to feel loved, your spouse knows exactly what you need. You can even buy a book about love languages to learn the needs we all have and find that resonates with us. Words of affirmation, acts of service to one another, quality time, physical touch and gifts. Find which area you crave most and have your partner work at supplying your needs. Read The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts to find out your language and your spouses as well.
One area that might sound weird but is helpful is making sure each of you get time for things that you enjoy. If he enjoys fishing or golfing, make sure you give him time to do that. If you enjoy heading off to the salon to get your nails done or want to walk around Target in peace and quiet go for it. Ensuring you both get time away to do something you enjoy is key. Then you will come home and be happier all around as you got that time to de-stress and do something you find peace in.
Personal Goals and Shared Goals
Sit down and write out shared goals you might have and then personal goals. Help each other to grow and reach those goals. When we are our partners biggest cheerleader it helps tremendously. Having goals you want to reach as a family is important, and then having items you want to check off just for you. Maybe learning a new skill for work, or taking up a new hobby. That is something that will make just you happy, and we all need that inner happiness.
Then for shared goals, you might want to plan for a big vacation, work towards buying a home or new car. Or it could be spending more quality time together and working at eliminating extra items in your schedule. Or maybe together you want to declutter your home. Whatever it may be make sure you both hold each other accountable for those goals.
What is one marriage goal you like to work toward for the new year?
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